How do I know if a woman is interested in me Aside from performing the flirt test to see if a woman likes you, here are signs a woman is interested in you.

1) She flirts with you, but not with other guys.

Sometimes my readers email me for help because they are confused about
whether a woman is interested or not. They will tell me that there’s
a girl who’s been flirting with them, but every time they make a move
on her, they just find themselves stuck in the “just friends” category.

What I always ask these guys is, “Yeah. So she flirts with you. But does
she flirt with other guys?”

It’s a very important distinction. Some women are just naturally flirty
and like to tease everyone. Don’t take their flirting too seriously.
In fact, watch out for potential character problems. (Such women will
often have a whole lineup of guys doing little favors for them.) But if
a girl never flirts with other guys except you, then it’s a pretty good
indicator she MAY be interested in you.

2) She talks to you a lot, but not to other guys.

The same goes for talking. If she talks to you a lot, but not to other
guys whenever you are around her, then there’s a possibility she likes
you. One potential pitfall is that she only sees you as her best friend.
So make sure you flirt with her and see how much she flirts back.

3) You catch her checking you out.

If you catch a woman checking you out, then you at least pigue her
curiosity. Don’t read too much into it though. Whatever her perception
of you she may have inside her head may all go away as soon as you
approach her and start a conversation. (Hint: Make sure you build
rapport, flirt and act like a challenge!)

4) She lets a strap fall off a shoulder but does not fix it.

If a woman walks around with a strap falling of a shoulder “at
all times”, she should probably try to get into the entertainment
industry. But if it falls off after a long, romantic date and
she doesn’t fix it, then it could be a sign that she’s ready for
something more. Lean closer to her and see how she reacts.

5) She’s extremely excited and touchy when she is around you.

If a woman is extremely excited and touchy when she’s around you,
she probably likes you as a friend at least. And if she shows at
least 2-3 other signs on this list, then you’ve got a pretty
good chance with her. As always, crank up the sexual chemistry and
act like a challenge to make sure you don’t end up in the friendship
zone.

6) She flips her hair at you.

It happens in movies; it happens in real life too. As with all the
other signs, you’ll want to confirm it with other signs as well.

7) She flashes her wrists at you.

Similar to flipping hair. Confirm with other signs.

8) She licks her lips when she talks to you.

Similar to hair flipping and wrist flashing. Don’t pay too much
attention to it alone but use it in conjunction with other signs.

9) She leans over and whispers to you.

The more a woman likes you, the closer she will lean towards you
and the softer her voice will be. She won’t use the same voice
that she uses with all her friends.

10) She mingles her stuff with yours.

With most women, there’s usually still a clear separation of “you” and
“me” when it comes to guy friends. But the more a woman likes you,
the more she will let go of that boundary and start finding little
ways to mingle her stuff with yours. She may put her bag or jacket
on top of yours instead of besides it, or she may start leaving
random objects in your apartment. (That’s how you end up with 2 bags
of her clothes and makeup that you have to give back when you
break up!)

11) She smiles genuinely when she’s around you.

There are “fake”, friendly smiles and there are genuinely smiles
from the bottom of her heart. She’ll give you the genuine one if
she’s interested.

12) She fidgets with her clothes around you.

Girls like to fidget with their clothes when they are with a guy
they like. So watch out for it.

13) She laughs at your dumbest jokes.

You can often tell a woman is REALLY into a guy when she finds his
DUMBEST jokes genuinely funny. It baffles the rest of us, doesn’t it?

14) She mirrors your body position.

If a woman keeps on adjusting her position to match yours, it’s
a sign that there’s rapport between you two. While rapport alone
doesn’t indicate romantic interests, you can use it to support
the other signs you see.

15) She calls or texts you for random reasons.

When a woman really likes a guy, she will often call him at random
times for random reasons. If a woman starts giving you random calls
or sending you random text messages at off hours, it’s usually
a good indicator she’s thinking about you.

16) She blushes when she looks at you.

A woman who finds you “cute” will often look at you but blush when
she sees you looking back. Not all women have this – only the shy
ones do.

17) She tries to “domesticate” you or cook for you.

You know a girl probably likes you when she keeps on trying to
domesticate you or to cook for you. That’s usually something
she reserves for her man, not her “best guy friend.”

18) She gives you “the vibe”.

If she gives you “the vibe” on a date, it’s a sign there’s strong
attraction. You gotta make sure it’s not just in your head though!

19) She dresses up when she knows she will see you.

How do you know if she sees an outing as just a friendly outing or
a serious date? Look at the way she’s dressed. If she has purposely
dressed up to impress you (YOU, not the situation/environment), it’s
a pretty good sign she’s interested in you.

20) She’s available when you ask her out.

If she’s always available when you ask her out, it’s a pretty good
sign she enjoys hanging out with you. If there’s sexual chemistry
involved as well, then it’s a clear sign she likes you.

21) She preens when she is around you.

Most women won’t be able to stop themselves from preening when they
are with a man they like. So if you see a woman preen when she’s
with you, it could be a sign she’s interested.

22) She does not talk about her boyfriend…ever…even when she has one.

Women will often avoid talking about their boyfriends when they
are with a guy they would like to cheat with. (Men do this too.)
That’s how many men and women end up in complicated love affairs –
they never even knew the other party was married or in a relationship
until they have slept together a few times.

23) She keeps her eyes locked on you while she talks or drinks.

The more a woman likes you, the more eye contact she will make.
Watch out though. This one could be misleading if the woman
has good communication skills and locks eyes with everyone
naturally.

24) She smiles or blushes when she catches you checking her out.

If a woman looks away or ignores you when she catches you
checking her out, you can kill any thoughts of approaching her.
But if she smiles back or even blushes, then it’s a good sign
you’re at least not repulsing her.

25) She tries to probe for information about you.

If you hear about a woman trying to probe information about you
from your friends, it’s a often a sign she’s infatuated with you
or at least curious about you.

Signs A Woman Is Interested In You

I’m
going to give you a few personal tips on how to be more positive!

1) Stop comparing yourself to others

The first tip I have for you is to stop comparing yourself to
other people. Until you stop doing this, it will be very
hard for you to feel grateful about what you already have. And
if you always think other people are better off than you are
even though you are the one who deserves more, it’s going to
turn you cynical and bitter over time.

– Stop comparing your career success with other people’s. There’s
always going to be someone richer than you
– Stop seeking approval from other people
– Compare yourself to yourself. See how much you’ve grown
and how far you’ve come. Compete against yourself, but not with
other people
– Understand that everyone has different strengths and priorities

2) Consciously look for something good in everyone you meet

This will probably sound cheesy, but I strongly encourage you
to try to look for something good in everyone you meet. It will
help you act more positive towards them.

– Think about “why” someone would do something rude and excuse
their behavior the best way you can
– Do not make the assumption that everyone is against you
– Just set a good example yourself rather than trying to change
people
– Think about what lessons you have learned from the encounter,
even if it is “this is why I don’t want to be like them.”
– Focus on the things they are good at rather than the things they
are bad at
– Identify one or two things they can do better than you

3) Detach yourself from “fairness” or justice

I don’t think it’s a coincidence that most of my bitter
or less positive readers usually have a strong sense of
fairness or justice. Specifically, they tend to think
the world has done them wrong or that “the world isn’t
fair”.

The world has never been fair and never will be. Here are
a few tips on how to deal with it:

– Understand that fairness is subjective. What’s fair to you
may not feel fair to other people.
– Learn to deal with uncertainties and random events
– Tolerate and forgive
– Help people when you can, but don’t get angry
– Do things because you ENJOY doing them, not because you
expect anything in return
– Realize that no system or rules can benefit everyone
all the time
– Adapt to the world rather than forcing the world to adapt
to you.

4) Stop Thinking It’s Either All Their Fault or All Your Fault

This is an extension of my last point about fairness. Stop seeing
the world in black and white. It is hard to stay positive when
there’s always a blame game or negative self-talk going on.
Accept responsibility for your own actions – nothing less, nothing
more. Do not blame others, but do not carry someone else’s burden
on your shoulders either.

– Stop thinking about things in terms of black and white. Accept
the fact that sometimes both parties should take responsibility.
– If you’re always blaming yourself, chances are, you should
not be taking responsibility for everything
– If you’re always blaming other people, chances are, you
should start looking internally as well

5) Focus on what you want instead of the problem

There’s an old saying, “Focus on the solution,
not the problem.” Unfortunately, thinking about solutions
often lead to other problems. People often think of
solutions that are polar opposites and “get stuck”
weighing the pro’s and con’s of each one. This gets them
stuck in a loop that they can’t get out of and they
become bitter, negative, and angry. (It’s hard to remain
positive when all solutions seem to bring you additional
problems!)

When I give advice to men and women stuck in such a
loop, I will often ask them bluntly, “So what exactly do
you want out of this?” Most of the time, they will dance
around the issue and tell me how they don’t really have
a preference. They will tell me about how it’s impossible
to solve their problem and show me how each problem will
give them additional problems. Sometimes they even try
to get me to make a decision for them.

But no matter how hard they try to evade my question,
I’ll always respond with the same question:

“What exactly do you want?”

Eventually I will wear them down and they will tell me
what they “think” they want. The funny thing is, as soon
as they tell me, it usually doesn’t take them long to
figure out what it is they have to do to overcome
their challenge!

– Think about what you want rather than what your problems are
– Build an action plan that will help you get what you want
– REMEMBER what you want so that you can focus on your long
term objective and ignore the short term pain when things
get tough.

6) Improve your social skills

From my experience, many people feel angry and bitter because
they feel disconnected from the world. They do not trust
other people, but at the same time they don’t understand why
other people don’t like them. If you belong in such a category,
I’d recommend you:

– Learn to interpret body language and non verbal signals
– Make eye contact and smile
– Learn to be an active listener
– Learn to give compliments rather than criticism
– Take a few acting classes
– Volunteer and join a few hobby clubs
– Learn how to have fun with people
– Improve your own body language

7) Learn to manage your behavior

Learn to manage your behavior so that you can actively
choose what you say and what you do. This will help you
become a more effective communicator and people will
see you as a more positive person as a result.

– Observe the effects your words and actions have on people
– Revisit your values and make sure they are congruent with
your actions
– Take a few communication classes and get some third party
feedback
– Avoid criticizing things and people in public
– Try not to say anything if you don’t have anything nice
to say.
– Get to know yourself under stress

8) Read Biographies

Read biographies of successful people and see how many
normal, everyday people like you and me have accomplished
the “impossible” by staying positive during tough times.

– Focus on their attitudes
– See their strengths and weaknesses
– Ask yourself what you could accomplish if you had the same
spark or passion